Help for Troubled Teenagers - Making Better Choices is a recent article of mine. In it I discuss the importance - and difficulty - of helping a frustrated teenager connect the dots between her behavior and the consequences she is receiving. Those consequences could be from you, her parent, from her school or work, from her friends or anywhere else in life.
The idea is to help your troubled teenager clearly understand the law of sowing and reaping. If she can grasp this concept and start to pay attention to it in her life, you will see a change.
Instead of feeling like life is passing her by, or worse, banging on her head, she will see that she can influence a considerable amount of what happens to her. She has a measure of control! Not complete control, of course, life just doesn't work that way, but valuable influence nonetheless.
* So cooperating with her parents results in less nagging. Maybe even more privileges.
* Being on time - every time - for work means her boss singles her out for better hours.
* Turning in homework on time and done well results in better grades - which in turn opens opportunities for educational advancement she thought she could never have.
Cause and effect. Sowing and reaping. A tool God has given us to use in this chaotic world.
Help your troubled teen recognize and use this awesome tool for herself.
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